It was one of those days where I was feeling needy for a little extra love and attention. I can’t exactly remember why…perhaps he was really busy that week at work and we weren’t super connected. But, for whatever reason, I just needed the reassurance that he still LIKED me. And so it went a little something like this:
Me: Baby…do you like me?
Angel: Baby I love you!
Me: I know you love me, but do you LIKE me?
Angel: (confused look on his face) Babe, I love you so much!
Me: But do you still LIKE me?
Angel: (even more confused and the beginnings of frustration look) Babe, I’m totally crazy about you and in love with you!
Me: BUT DO YOU LIKE ME????
Angel: What do you mean, woman?!?! I LOVE you!!!
Me: Here’s what I mean…
Does anyone else know what I’m talking about here or am I just totally crazy?! Here’s an analogy to explain. We all have family members that we are not exactly crazy about all of the time, right? Now, of course you love them, because they are family! But do you LIKE them? Mmmmm….perhaps not all the time.
I think it’s the same with marriage! After you have been married for a while, you have to make sure you still like each other. Of course you will still love each other, but I think liking and loving can be different. Love is that deep, for better or worse, commitment and promise you made to each other on the wedding day. Like is that giddy, cute, sweet, feeling of just delighting in someone for who they are. We all start off in our relationship liking the other person, then it transitions to love. After you do life together for a period of time, it’s inevitable that you will hurt each other – we are all imperfect humans, after all. Typically, those hurt feelings or disappointments, if not fully dealt with and forgiven, over time will cause us to fall out of like with one another.
Here’s another example for you Seinfeld fans. George Costanza’s parents. They are elderly and have been married for many many years. ALL they do is fight and bicker at each other. Do they love each other? Yes, of course, they are still married after all these years! But do they still like each other? It doesn’t really appear that way, does it?
So if you find your feelings of liking your spouse one day in the future starting to dwindle…that would be the time for a good heart check as to why and address the situation ASAP. Do whatever you need to do to stay in LIKE with one another! In my marriage, from time to time, my husband and I will tell each other “I love you AND I like you” 🙂 We all need a little reassurance sometimes, right?! Enjoy your week, my dear brides, and I hope this little tidbit is a blessing to your future marriage!
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P.P.S. If you liked this post, you may enjoy my last Monday Marriage Tip, Never Stop Dating, HERE!