Remember that 80’s song “You are the wind beneath my wings”? Well, for you millennials this might be a little bit before your time, ha! But anyway, it’s a popular song sung by Bette Midler that I remember hearing all the time back in the day. Maybe it’s the blond in me, but I just didn’t really get the significance of being the wind beneath someone’s wings. What does that even mean, really?
THEN, to add to my confusion, one time a friend of mine who was already married and kind of like a big sister to me, said of relationships “you have to be the wind beneath his wings.” Eventually, I caught on and realized it basically means to be that force that makes him fly…I like to refer to it as being your man’s biggest fan.
I truly believe that the more positive encouragement you give your man about anything and everything great about him, the even better man he becomes. Men thrive greatly off of this encouragement and need it. Why do you think football and basketball cheerleaders came to be? I think, sometime way back in the day, some wise person said, “hey, our team may actually play better if we have people dedicated to cheering them on.”
Here’s a story I heard one time about one of our former US Presidents to illustrate. I’m not positive which president it was, but I think it was Ronald Reagan. Let’s just say it was. So here’s the story: One time Mr. and Mrs. Reagan pulled up to a gas station to get gas in their home town. The man working at the gas station who came out to help them happened to be Mrs. Reagan’s old high school sweetheart. They exchanged a brief friendly conversation and as they were pulling away, President Reagan said “wow honey, just think about how different your life would be if you had married him. You’d be the wife of a gas station attendant, rather than the wife of a US President.” To this she sweetly and confidently replied, “no, dear, if I had married him, he would have become the president.”
Now that is a woman who knows how to be her man’s biggest fan and is keenly aware of the impact it makes on his confidence and entire life outcome!
Here’s a practical way of going about this – apply these sayings to whatever it is that they have specifically going on in their life:
You can do it!
I believe in you.
You got this.
If anyone can do it, you can.
You are my hero!
So, my dear brides and future wives, try this out and see the magic that happens!
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P.P.S. If you liked this post, you may enjoy my last Monday Marriage Tip, Be Each Other’s Safe Place, HERE.